I've sorry to read that your son was ill yesterday and I hope he's feeling better today.

I'm glad to see that you are thinking of setting a small goal. However, please try to remember that if the goal isn't met, you'll be disappointed and in a way, that's expecting something if you are thinking of setting goals for you and your man/child. Set some goals for you to strive for and see how many you accomplish in the coming months.

BTW, if you still thinking of setting a small goal for you and your h, I would keep the goal to myself and not tell him. It may put too much pressure on him.

Mlcers are very unpredictable and there's no telling if your man/child will be ready in the near future to talk to you about the relationship. When he's ready, he'll talk to you about it. I know you are frustrated and limbo is wearing on you and believe me, none of us wanted to be in limbo for any length of time, but sometimes, it pays to sit in limbo just for a while and wait patiently for the answers to come. I'm a firm believer in sitting quietly and God will provide you w/the answers.

Just my two cents, when you keep the focus on you, your family, home, work and/or hobbies, limbo land tends to fade in the background just a bit.

Please do not try to rush the process because all it does is send them back down into the rabbit hole. The slower his recovery, the better because that will mean he's working on his issues and will heal properly and hopefully become a mature man at the end of his journey.

BRNR, none of us wanted to be on this journey, but we have found that there is new territory out there for each of us to explore and discover things about ourselves while they are on the Mother Ship. None of us wanted to let go, let God, but at the end of the day, we discovered that the tighter we hold the rope on the situation, the longer it took for us to detach and get on w/our lives, as well as allowing the mlcer to grow up. I do understand how you feel, but you can't rush his progress. His clock is far, far slower than any that we have in our possession.

Sit quietly, the answers will come when God is ready to reveal them to you. Dig deeper for patience.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.