Got an email from her, she needs money. Is she kidding me. She wants to take the money we had agree to pay lawyer fees with. She wants to take half of it. Wtf.... Is she kidding me. I have not responded.
She keeps agreeing to things and then reneging. She need to learn within her means, she should have been saving for this. This was something we could have talked about if she did not run of the mediation session. She signed off her message " hope you are well." Well?, the last thing she said to me was I was "disgusting" and that she never wanted to see me again and tried to slam a door in my face. How the heck can I be well, it is like she has no recollections of the things she did, she does not realize what is happening, she does not understand mariatial assets. I makes me crazy, I try to let go then I am sucked back in.
Is it wrong of me to feel a little "I told you so" about W. I mention to her a while back, that "She could not save a dime". she has used up all her money, has no more retirement funds. now she wants more money from me.
Is it wrong of me to feel a little "I told you so" about W. I mention to her a while back, that "She could not save a dime". she has used up all her money, has no more retirement funds. now she wants more money from me.
Not wrong of you to feel like that at all in my opinion. I wouldn't say it too her though. She will likely already be perfectly aware.
W 39 Me 33 M 9yrs 8 year old Son ILYBINILWY - Dec 12 W moved out - Jan 2013 OM - Jan 2013 I file for D - May 2013
If W was so ADAMANT about a divorce then why has she not filed, she has told me numerous time that is what she wanted, I wanta what is the hold up! I am thinking that I will not get her back, and i am starting to feel that maybe I do not want the her back, and I need to change my title. She has already changed her name,
But for now I want to reply to THIS post of yours.
Originally Posted By: edward113
If W was so ADAMANT about a divorce then why has she not filed, she has told me numerous time that is what she wanted, I wanta what is the hold up!
Why don't you corner her up against the wall and make her sign some papers "or else'!! Oh wait, you wanted to SAVE the marriage...now you're angry she has not filed for divorce.
Be careful what you wish for. Meanwhile I'd pray she is having second thoughts OR at least thinks she can wait...which means you have the gift of TIME.
I am thinking that I will not get her back, so why not beat her to the punch?
and i am starting to feel that maybe I do not want the her back, and I need to change my title. She has already changed her name,
you sound very angry. I get that. Of course you are. You're very hurt.
But since this is a SOLUTION based site, let me ask you 2 questions.
How is being angry, going to help you win your w back?
When she sees your anger and bitterness, don't you think she feels BETTER about her choice to leave?
Remember, we want to undermine their negative images of us, w/positives...
do not add fuel to her "leaving h" fire. Keep the road home, paved & smooth.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Is it wrong of me to feel a little "I told you so" about W. I mention to her a while back, that "She could not save a dime". she has used up all her money, has no more retirement funds. now she wants more money from me.
the more you say bitter statements, the happier she'll be to flee your presence. ANd she might feel "entitled" to more money b/c people get weird when they are angry.
As for you insulting her now about not saving a dime, I fail to see the point of the comment
Tell me HAVE YOU READ THE BOOKS THAT FORM THE BASIS OF THIS SOLUTION BASED SITE?
We are here trying to help people save their marriages IF they can.
Mostly what I see you doing is complaining about her and venting. Venting would be fine if it made you feel better.
But I think it's doing 2 negative thigns instead. 1) You are staying stuck in your anger
and 2)
you are NOT working on the only person you can control in this situation...YOU
so work on you. become a man only a fool would leave...then, no matter what SHE does or says, you'll be better off.
But the path you are on now is just a litany of grievances that possibly got you here in the first place.
Can you tell me how forgiveness was modelled in your childdhood?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Angry, no more disappoint, she has blamed me for dragging all this out, when I have been more then will to talk about. I know no to take what W said to heart, but it is very difficult not to. Maybe now I starting to see her in a different light, I am what see has been to most of her friends, now she is doing it to me.
The only time she does contact me is when it is about money. The is were my frustration comes from. I have asked her the few times I have seen her and she says "WHY DO YOU CARE", i told her because you her my WIFE and I care about you. yes I have gotten be anger with her, I now careful vet all messages that are send to her, remove all feelings almost act like a banker.
I just may beat her to the punch, I don't know I am confused, I have a feeling that is what she is waiting for, just like her mother she wants to be a martyr. The her hatred just does not make sense.
My childhood there was not time for feeling. You sucked it up. too many siblings to from my parents to worry about. I understand that and have been working with my therapist on that.
I am just lost. I know I can live without her, but I loved being with her, And everyone in my life is telling me take care of YOU, do what YOU want to do, what YOU enjoy. I half been trying. Yet is it bad to she that I LIKED DO THINGS for her, She is a beautiful women and to see her constantly undergoing surgery just makes my sad.
