Wife privileges reinstated, back in my own bed!

[mamabird]

H says that it's always "my way or the highway". I don't like to be wrong, that is for sure. This is one of the reasons I put that line about being right in my signature. It's a big thing for me and I have to remind myself that it's not always about being right.

We have gotten to a place in our M where I feel like if I am not defensive I'll get walked all over. I was told here for months to "get a backbone" so I tried to do that.

I guess I feel like if I'm not defensive or defending my position, then no one will. It feels like no one has my best interests at heart sometimes, at least not in the moment. Certainly H does not and many times I feel like he will take advantage if I do not defend. Maybe I ought to practice just saying "Yes, you're right" and then shutting up. One of the reasons I like my MC so much is that he is good at putting things in perspective and explaining stuff without making me feel defensive. It allows me to just listen to him and to hear what he is saying without any of the static.