//and this is where i beat me up because maybe i could have done things differently well of course i could have//
One thing that really bothers me about this site is the rejection of the idea of "Good Enough". The constant mantra of "what can you do to improve", "What did you do to drive him to an affair", "how did you contribute to the failed marriage"
I understand the importance of a little introspection, but at some point, what is wrong with wanting to be loved for who you are just the way you are. You deserve that. Were you perfect? Who is? Where, however, is the line for "Good Enough"? Don't beat yourself up.
