You are probably right, somewhere down the road divorce is probably an option. I have not reached that point just yet, I want to make sure every stone that can be turned is before I give up. I alos have 3 young boys, and they certainly never asked for any of this. They need me and I need them. Often I think that I MUST forsake my life so that theirs is a good life, you know us fathers are supposed to lay it on the line for family. Is my happiness more important then thiers? So far I keep voting for their happiness over mine, but I still have the torture of thinking about mine, and I know this is not right. I currently know an older gentlemen who is in his 50's with children younger then mine, and he and his wife plan to divorce when the children leave home as well. I look at him and see a man that will be in his 60's when he finally moves out from his wife, and his love life will be in the waning years we he gets his freedom. You know, to hear his wife talk about him you would think he is a jerk, and yet, he is basically giving up his life for his kids. He will be in his 60's when he finally leaves his wife and can start thinkng about his own needs again!
You know what's worst of all, thinking to myself if I am some kind of selfish pervert. Should I want sex and intimacy so much? Is it selfish to leave my family for these needs? Other guys tough it out. Why can't I learn accept a sexless marriage like most guys end up with.
