Life, One Day at a Time (22 months)

[adinva]

Yeah, I do. I'm struggling to find the time to respond to the separation agreement he gave me in November. I have to tell him,
1. I want to buy his share of the house
2. I will need spousal support and for more than the five years he said he'd not pay anything after
3. Child support is not optional
4. I think he should contribute toward sport and other special child expenses until age 18 as well as college or trade school after that.
5. We need to agree on the date of our separation. He put it 5/1/11, and I could argue it was 12/9/12. Whenever it was, we can't be legally divorced until a year after that.

The rest is pretty much agreeable but those are big areas we're apart on.

Anyway, once that is signed I'll suggest that he should go ahead and file for divorce immediately. It isn't healthy for him to be hanging out in limbo with this hanging over his head; he's clearly concerned about money and he has no place to live. I'm in my home with my dog and kids; my life has changed a lot less than his has so far. It isn't healthy for me to be sitting here hoping we might get back together. We should finish this and move on with our lives.

I would prefer it be him because I did not choose this and didn't want it, and I don't want the record to make it look like I did. But if he doesn't want to file and doesn't want to work on the marriage either, then I'll go ahead and do it.

Based on that, not knowing how the court system might delay it, I guess I'll be divorced sometime in the next 3 to 9 months.