GTO, it seems you're detaching. You can only truly love someone when you see them as they are. You don't expect perfection, you don't put him on a pedestal, you accept them for who they truly are, and you are okay with them living life the way the choose to live it. This does not mean you will accept being mistreated, so love yourself and establish boundaries.
Your H is under a lot of stress. He seems to be softening a bit. You sound so much more composed, and I'm happy for that.
