GTO, your words are so comforting--every single one of them. Thank you. I'm looking forward to the day when we'll meet in person.
FY, I did go to kickboxing today, and it felt great :-) About your comments, I always struggled with the fact that my H didn't show any empathy or compassion for anyone. I loved him and overlooked this, but he had always been this way. Very self-centered. He does have some good qualities to him, but he needs to learn and grow so much, and I sometimes doubt he'll be able to do it in this lifetime. My connection with my true self/spirit is so clean that I'm able to bounce back quickly, so that's good :-)
Andrew, I've missed you. Thank you for stopping by. I can see how busy you've been. Will add hugs to my list!
Update: I spoke with the L today, and he asked me to send him all the evidence I have of my H's affair. I have a lot, including videos he took of himself and the OW in the hotel room where he was staying. Yes, imagine how hard it was for me to see that!! So I hope it doesn't come down to having to show this in court, bc then my H will see how much damage he is doing to himself by having this nasty attitude. The L suggested something they do in court, in which you meet with impartial L's and they tell you the expected alimony amount. This way my H can get a better idea that what I'm asking for is fair. The L he contacted seems to be some money-hungry, inexperienced guy who made things a lot worse.
Keep me in your thoughts and/or prayers. I'm talking to my H tomorrow about this resource we could tap into, and will also propose other options such as having a MC as a mediator (a lot cheaper.) With his attitude, though, it'll be a challenge. We'll see. I'm still sending him positive energy and love (although I am beyond angry at him and don't want to have anything to do with him AT ALL after the D.)
