It sounds like to me like you're prepared to follow through on separation and/or possible D upon confronting your W about OM. You know your limits, and if you're truly ready to follow through on things, do so when you're ready. IMO you should be prepared for the possibility of her never coming back to the M if you take that step and it shouldn't be solely to show her what she would missing. You know where you are with that.
It also seems to me like you may be spending a considerable amount of time watching your W. Are you doing that to evaluate your decision to file for separation or D?
Hey JB, thanks for stopping by. I have to read your sitch I see that you have updates I will check it out.
You're right I'm spending lots of time about W, part of it is that yes I'm evaluating my sitch. It's really about me just holding on, deep down I think I really must let her go. I'm on the fence and I need that extra nudge so to speak to let go.
I'm aware that w will not return to M, but if the separation is what's going to clear her head then so be it. Same with me, I'm not sure how I'd react if she wants to reconcile we will see.
But right now I think the more we stay together the more she gets closer or think about OM. You know "Romeo and Juliet 101", I heard that line at law and order.
Anyway, we will see I have to plan this good. I need two more L opinions, save money, think about what my kids will need when they are with me. I'm thinking of moving to my parents temporarily and will definitely take the kids every other weekend.
More later I gotta go,
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
