Try this: Find a brick wall. Mark an 'X' on it right at forehead height. Anytime you find yourself trying to 'figure out what has happened' introduce your forehead to the brick wall, repeatedly. It will take you much less time to achieve the same headache as you would get from thinking too much about your sitch.
Trust me, I've been down this road before.
labug is absolutely right in her post above.
GAL, stop doing what she was complaining about. Get yourself back to where you're happy with who you are, be a great dad and a great man. Even if it ends up that your W doesn't change her mind, the changes you make in your life will be what's best in the long run for you and your girls.
I'm living that right now myself. I can't change anything that has happened between my W and I, but, my R with my daughters has never been better, and they are getting along really well with their mother - regardless of the outcome between W and I, those R's must go on...
