Read more on detaching. It will help you in separating your emotions from the actions of others.

From the Livestrong site about detaching, Developing and maintaining of a safe, emotional distance from someone whom you have previously given a lot of power to affect your emotional outlook on life.

Do something everyday that is just for you. Spending time with your kids is great but that's about them, not you. They shouldn't be the key to you finding your own life. Kids need parents who have their own happiness.

Find you and what makes you happy independent of others.

You can do this, but it's work.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss