LF, when you decide you need closure, go back to your DR book and look for "After the Last Resort Technique" (the ultimatum).
This gives your W one last chance to choose you and the marriage. You don't have to file for D to do this, but you must be prepared to do so. DO NOT do this unless you are ready to end the stalemate by possibly ending the M.
I agree, we can only go on like this for so long. Only you will know when this time comes. Hang in there buddy, you have a lot of people in your life who love you.
Well like you say i dont think i am ready to end it yet. But i also dont like the lack of movement.
I had to contact the W this morning. I had to tell her that i am getting calls from bill collectors for her Creditcards and the car loan that is in both our names is calling and the dealer is calling me. Se only said im sorry i told them to not call you so just ignore them,( hmm i should say just pay them and i will not get called but i did not say it) she said there all paid now but i know there not.
I did say to her that it would be nice to sit and talk to you some time. i will give you 1 guess on what she did. yup she just stopped texting me. No reply. Just like the 2 weeks ago text i sent asking the same thing. I do not know why she is doing this.
I talked to her mom and she said that she does not get it. she is going to talk to her when she see her again. But she said she does not see her much at all.
anyway something strange happend today . i was home and saw alot of police and firetrucks and ambulance go by my house. I was worried cause my nephew just left. so I got in my car and found out he was ok. But the car i saw was the car of W's Daughters BF. I came home and called her to see what happen and to maybe see if everything was ok. It was his car and the car is totalled.my step daughter told me that she totalled her car on sat. so not they have no ride to work or anything. She asked me if i could help her if she needed it. I told her yes I told her before that she could always call me. She is not living with her mom my W. But i also found that my W is not helping her at all. im sure ll this will get back to her and I will be the bad guy. But to bad, I offered a long time ago and she is taking the offer and asking for help. She does not understand what her mom is doing too.
I just thaought it was nice that the step daughter comes to me and not her own mom. This in the past always made my W upset.
anyway at this point we will see what happens. I am just at a loss with the W.
