Need to let go

[littleGTO]

"Saying "we had it, lost it, and aren't interested in working on getting it back" makes more sense to me."

Yep, FY, this is what I believe is H's current thinking.

I'm with AS about whether or not I want H back. Definitely not as is. Back as time goes on and I remove myself more and more (detach) I'm starting to look at him and really wonder if I was wearing rose-colored glasses for a long time. I really put him on a pedestal in which he doesn't belong.

Now his imperfections which I was perfectly happy to live before seem bigger somehow. Not to mention he is definitely a different person to me.