LF, when you decide you need closure, go back to your DR book and look for "After the Last Resort Technique" (the ultimatum).

This gives your W one last chance to choose you and the marriage. You don't have to file for D to do this, but you must be prepared to do so. DO NOT do this unless you are ready to end the stalemate by possibly ending the M.

I agree, we can only go on like this for so long. Only you will know when this time comes. Hang in there buddy, you have a lot of people in your life who love you.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl