Third session with therapist. More discussions of daughters difficulties in day care. More talk of how great I am, and how I come home early to help with with D2. No mention of marriage issues. Zoloft prescription doubled to 100mg (double). Four days later...bam.. the bomb. Wife says she is confused, needs 6 months off from marriage, knows we have something special but doesn't know why she is having feelings for someone else, needs time to think.
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wife tells me to go see her therapist that day, to help me deal with all of this. I went to her therapist who pulls out wife file and shows me ALL the notes she had made. She had written great husband, great daddy, awesome guy. Great life companion etc.. She told me to go home and tell wife to come IMMEDIATELY because this could be a manic reaction to the meds.
I understand how you might feel the meds are to blame. I was on a ton of meds, and more AD's than your W. I was even on Zoloft for a period of time. It would be very easy for me to blame my EA on the fact I was over medicated and at one time four of those meds were basically AD's. Every time I went to a new doctor, I would be abruptly taken off all the AD's at once, or more added. There was no tapering down. So, yes, I can understand. I don't use it as my excuse for what I did.....but I understand.
But tell me this, if her therapist thought she was having some type of manic (or any type of unusual reaction) to the Zoloft, why in the world would he/she renew your W's prescription? After all these months and she's still taking a prescription her therapist was that concerned about? The dosage was never changed? She never returned, and yet those refills were authorized by the therapist? Seems to me, you would have pursued doing something about that therapist.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
