Intact, first I wanted to say I'm sorry about your father. I can only imagine how difficult that is.
I've just read thru both your threads and one thing comes thru over and over again, from your very first post to your last. Do you know what that is?
Wife wife wife wife....over and over. Wife did this, what do I do? Wife is seeing OM, wife said x, etc etc.
What about you?
Originally Posted By: Intact
There are of course still things I want to change about myself, but I realise it will take commitment and time. I don't want to act out of emotion any longer.
So what are you working on.....for you?
You need to stop thinking in terms of "if I do this, W will come back" and start thinking more like "this is who I want to be."
Originally Posted By: Spartan
My changes are for me and no one else. I feel better about myself than I have in years, probably ever. I don't think about changes being made to save my M any longer. With that guess what, I don't feel guilty anymore. I've forgiven myself and I know I did everything I could at the time with the tools I had.
Yes! I couldn't have said it any better.
I also totally agree with Mach1's point about God giving us the hardships we need, to make the changes we need to make. Maybe it just makes me feel better, but with that mindset, I can easily look at every difficult moment in my life and find the silver lining.
