I can understand why it may be confusing. However, it sounds to me like she's even more confused than you are.
You have definitely taken the high, rocky road during your situation.
I think you're taking the right approach. No pressure at this point. One day at a time, my friend. You'll know when the time is right to have that R talk. It's taken this long to get to this point.
I would consider this progress, although it's unclear what direction you are progressing in.
