Thought I should post something to my own sitch. Not a whole lot new, just staying the course.
Friendly distancing seems to be going well. W is initiating more small talk and I'm listening and validating. Today she even initiated convo complaining about court process (I so wanted to remind her this is her idea but I didn't, I just empathized with her having to change her work schedule...). I rarely initiate any discussions not related to kids. Been very friendly with it though. I've also not shown that anything she says or does bothers me, in fact I've acted the opposite with her just staying calm and cool.
One thing I've noticed last few days is glimpses of my old W with her interaction with kids. I have no expectations it will continue but I LOVE seeing her being happy, caring, and really interacting with them. She's also including me in night prayers with kids (I haven't been included since pre-BD). Again I have no expectations of any of this continuing long or it really meaning much big picture, likely just her popping her head out the tunnel for a couple days.
Initial court date was today and nothing came out of it, W didn't dismiss but wasn't expecting that . Next court date is set for 5/28 and our mediator has been selected. I asked my L to slow things down as much as possible without it being obvious, he selected mediator that is notoriously busy so we'll see when that gets scheduled.
I've been doing all planning/ prep for S4's 5th B-day party this weekend. Not sure if W will be there or not. W has had a falling out with couple parents of S4 friends during this D process. She's told me both yes and no last couple weeks. I told her it's completely up to her and she's obviously welcome and wanted there but reminded her that it's S4's party and he wanted his friends there. I REALLY hope she decides to come, I think S4 will have a tough time with it if she doesn't come and I know he won't go to W with it. I'll be there for him but hate that he gets hurt during this BS. I SO want to tell her I remember my 5th B-day party (Superman cake and first major even my dad didn't show up for something, it become the norm after that). I know it would do no good and just add pressure which serves no purpose.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
. Next court date is set for 5/28 and our mediator has been selected. I asked my L to slow things down as much as possible without it being obvious, he selected mediator that is notoriously busy so we'll see when that gets scheduled.
