I see you standing at the edge of this cliff, wondering how cold, how deep the water under you is...
I see you wondering if you jump, will anyone be there to catch you, and to make sure that you are safe...
Nobody can guarantee you of that, and nobody can guarantee you that your marriage will work out, or end.
There are no guarantees in life, other than no matter what, you will face struggles and battles on your way. I have found that making that leap of faith, is the hardest thing you will ever do, and yet, it is the most rewarding thing you will ever do.
I can't tell you that it won't hurt, or sting, or cause you to look at things you could have never imagined looking at within yourself.
What I can tell you, that if you are going to do it, then stop Fing around and do it. Put your heart into it, and make it worth your time. Don't halfway do something that is this important. Don't not answer a question, because it is hard to answer...
What I have found, is that God gives us exactly the problems we need, to fix ourselves..
And I'm not gonna get all religious on you here or anything, just something that I believe in...
I will tell you, that I really do not need the answers to those questions either....those answers are for you. And you better know those answers when the time comes.
It would be really easy, to come onto a Divorce Busting website, and scratch the surface of what a reconciliation looks like for you, and scratch the surface of what exactly went wrong ( on your side of the street), and walk away, feeling better. Because you posted on a website...
The BEST way for a chance to save your marriage, is to take care of the shortcomings that you may have had, and change the things that YOU want to change, because you want to do better for the future, and to teach your Son how to do better.
Learn what Love means to you. Learn what respect, desire, kindness, compassion, dignity looks like...
Learn to define that, just for you...
Learn what it means to be controlling, manipulative, and co-dependent....
THAT is what I mean by digging deep....
Are you ready for that ???
Or is this merely a way to say that you tried ????
