Intact I hope you can think deeper than this. Mach asked you these questions and I'm not sure you answered them:
Define what love means to you ???
Does love equal obligation ?
Duty ?
The reason I'm posting to you is I've said some very similar things as you do. Think hard about this, does guilt partially define and drive your love? The word obligation had me spinning for days when I was peeling layers back. When you define what love means don't think of it in the context of just your W, what does it mean to YOU?
When I first came to this site a lot of it was because of guilt. I was a jackass for years and felt guilty for not being H my W needed or wanted. The guilt got me here but you know why I'm still here, because I'm loving the changes I'm making. My changes are for me and no one else. I feel better about myself than I have in years, probably ever. I don't think about changes being made to save my M any longer. With that guess what, I don't feel guilty anymore. I've forgiven myself and I know I did everything I could at the time with the tools I had.
We all want you to get to that point buddy. Most of your posts are either about your W, your W's thoughts, or telling us you know we're right about something. We want to know what YOU think, how YOU feel, and what things YOU want to change about yourself. It's hard work and I applaud you for being here, just dig deep and think about the questions being asked.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
