Just had a meeting with W she asked if our Son could meet OM. I told her whilst I can't stop her I feel it is too soon and a little inappropriate. She told me that "I had to accept it sooner or later as she thinks he's 'the one'" Horrible.
Is this the hill you want to die on ???
Just a simple question you should be asking yourself before you react to any situation.
You aren't always going to like her choices, and they won't always match up to what is perfect. You don't have to like them, although you do have to acknowledge them.
Be there for your Son, if/when he asks questions.
One important thing I learned, was that it isn't your job to facilitate their (wife) relationship. Your only job, is to NOT damage it.
I'm not saying it is right either, cause it isn't. Although it is her decision to make.
This guy will never be your Son's Father, no matter how hard he tries.....
Originally Posted By: Intact
Nice stuff to hear that. She also told me how her Mother has said how she looks happier than ever and that her friends keep telling her I look miserable and rough. So much for GALing - I never look miserable or rough when I'm out and about...
Blah, Blah, Blah.....bullschidt
This is why you don't talk to friends and family about this. You are gonna get a biased opinion, depending on what side of the fence you are on....
Want a pick me up ? Call your family...
Wanna feel worse ? Call her family....
YOUR opinion of you is all that matters, and you have really sukced at that up till now.
And make no mistake, she is running on pure emotion right now. when the dust settles ????
Things will be different. If YOU are different...
Originally Posted By: Intact
I just think (and I know I shouldn't) that my W has now fallen in love with OM which seems to leave me with very little chance of reconciliation. I know, I know I'm mind reading but it is how I feel.
Yea.....
Well "thinking" got you here didn't it ???
Stop thinking that you know what she is doing, or saying, or feeling...
Cause you really don't know...
If you did, I would be hittin you up for the winning lottery numbers...
This isn't easy, on either of you. She is reacting from emotion, and so are you. There is no reason for BOTH of you to do so.
Start applying the DB rules, and living them, so that you can act from rational , instead of REacting from emotion....
