This is a hurtful place for you! You've got the anniversary coming up and you aren't at a place where you feel like any issues are being worked on in your M. So painful!
I don't remember, is MC an option? Would H be willing?
That seems to be the big key for me. When my H was willing and (frightened though) wanting to go to MC it was huge. Our MC is having us do little projects that really are opening our hearts to be receptive to love growing. I wouldn't say she is helping our love grow, just helping us work on ourselves in relation to each other. Does that make sense?
For example, this week we had to fill out a sheet that was titled "10 intimacy needs" -- emotional needs -- and we list our top three priorities and how we think our spouse can fulfill those with specific examples.
Would your H be willing to do anything like that, you think?
Yow two are under a lot of financial stress and that never helps even in the best of times. Would it be impossible to finance another session with a DB coach?
T^2 put a nice quote on my thread that comes to mind now -- basically accepting reality. Do you think your H is okay with the way things are with you, and not desirous to make changes?
Is there a special thing you could plan for the two of you that wouldn't cost s lot of $? Are you near water? Like a picnic near a lake watching the sunset? Or something special, out-of-the-ordinary but not costing a lot?
Idk. Just brainstorming. I know planning a an anniversary dinner isn't your main concern....just want you to know I want to help! I wish I could make your H wake up to the precious gift he has in you...but that's probably been the problem all along.
I'll be thinking of you today. You've always been there for me. Let us know how the plans progress.
(((GALbaby)))
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
