I'm a little confused after phone coaching session

[azguy]

Hi reb, Just writing to say I appreciate you sharing your story as you go through it. It helps me (and I suspect others) to see you struggling to save your M and the thoughtful responses. Wish you well.

Your impulse to control your H's actions sound very familiar to me, and I had the same interaction with my W. How do you convince your spouse, you've lost that interest in controlling them? I've learned just saying so doesn't work. Maybe consistent actions will.

I'm also trying to rebuild my R in small pieces from interactions with our S. Not easy. It's taken me awhile to realize, though, that these are genuine opportunities. I'm trying to make the most of it.