My wife has told me she wants to find a counselor who can tell her if we have anything sound to build on. She wants a list of things in a healthy relationship so she can see if ours is worth working on. It's almost like she's trying to figure out if our marriage is not worth the effort and she should find another one to work on. But she has also said she's not interested in another relationship.
I just hope and pray that she consults with someone who encourages her to work on keeping our family together. She's got to want to do that though. No matter what anyone, including a therapist may say to her.
I feel like if she gets advice to work on things here at home, she still won't be convinced that that is what she wants to do. However, if she senses that the therapist's advice is to scrap it and move on, she'll do that because it agrees with how she feels now. The lure of the unknown verses the challenges of our relationship with which she is very familiar. Why does the grass always look greener?
