the pot scenario sounds far more likely now, Ad. But as I said before, we didn't have enough info to know. Seems we do now.
So how's your son's view on "the big day", now? And are you sharing all of this with your h? Does the amnesty part (which I think I mentioned, I LOVE) apply to him or does your son have your word that what he said that day, is confidential?
I know there are arguments that as his dad, your h has the right to know. I get that. But the priest who married my h and I said 2 helpful things to us when we got married (which is not a lot).
One of them was "deceit is not good in a marriage. But neither is giving your spouse a reason for it, by over reacting to a bad event". He used the dented car as an example and said "so if you go berserk when she dents the car, the next time it happens even if it's not her fault, she may want to hide it from you to avoid a crazy blow up"...
And when it comes to your son being honest with you about his drug use, which is potentially a serious health issue, I could make an argument both ways.
Your h does sound as if his approach DIScourages open communication, to say the least.
That's got to be a challenge for you.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
