Almost two years and still stuck in limbo

[newman7977]

AS - thanks. I have to catch up on your sitch. All I know is that you got off the A/D's? If so good for you. You sound well AS

Accuray - I will check out the book. It sounds like a trial separation? I read some of your sitch before, I have to check it out how you piece your marriage.

Galbaby - hey thanks for checking in. I haven't heard from you in a while too. Glad to hear from you. I hope you're sitch is improving and getting out of limbo.

Update: I'm sad to report that my W staying the extra 30-40 mins before coming home has been a pattern now. Same pattern a few blocks away from home she'd stop for a while, I know the area and it's not commercial it's residential no reason to stop.

I really feel like confronting her now but I know she will deny it...I don't know what she does I just know she stay the extra time before coming home..I see it on my Iphone app. It's fine, I cant control her and what she does but what bothers me is that my kids doesn't need to stay alone like that at home where she could've been home alrady. I mean granted d18 is now an adult to watch my other young kids but there's no reason. My gut tells me she's talking to OM, probably another phone line or email because its not showing in our phone records.

I will confront as soon as I plan my separation the days i will take the kids and the weekends I will have them. I know she won't move out so I would have to remove myself out. Yes I discuss this with a L before, we talked about to avoid leaving the marital home but if I do, as long as I can show the judge I had custody of the kids 50% it will not be abandonment. I will try to get a second opinion...but I think that make sense what do you guys think?

Anyway, I really can't allow this to happen anymore. I think My W's infatuation is too strong to overcome and I need to let my W go so she can see exactly what she's doing to herself and her family and what she's about to lose. Right now, she has me as a cover of a family togetherness, we go to family gatherings like nothing happened. My SIL that knows the EA thinks that W is working this but she doesn't know this little stops that my W is doing. My W is getting the convenience of both worlds. And I truly believe this M will not make it if OM is still on the sideline.

Til next time,
Newman