Served

[AJM]

D, I think what Breakdown wrote is the most honest and powerful statement anyone could write to you. He's showing you something there.

In the end, your choice is to live with somebody who has no respect for you. If she has no respect, and is trying to hurt you (who knows why really?) then no matter what you do it won't fix her broken self. Here's the thing. You can and should do what's right for you. The consequences are hers to own as well.

Is living with her because you fear not to the right way to go about this? If she stays, is that better for you and the kids? Is it better to have her demean you in front of them? Is it better that you acquiesce to her childish bullying and accusations so she'll stay and demean you, disrespect you, and cheat on you?

Or is it better to face your fears and say enough is enough?

I'm for the latter knowing what I know now. I made a conscious choice to let me ex beat me like a baby seal for a set period of time. Why? Because I saw there was more than what she was doing. I saw her shatter and knew it was about something other than me. But there came a point when enough was enough regardless. I took no more and I never left my own bed. I'm glad I did it that way. I'd rather be me than live with the alternative.

At some point, you'll have to say enough is enough. I suggest you do so sooner. You are not the one breaking up the family - she is. See that for what it is.

My $0.04 worth.

AJ