Whoever made up the expression "the truth hurts" knew what they were talking about.
In looking at it positively...
I am a firm believer that if there is any chance for a serious, long lasting R, the truth HAS to come out.
Personally, I believe the truth usually does come out. Sometimes rearing its ugly head when we least expect it.
I would rather know the truth, than be led to believe one thing, only to find out a year, or 5 years, or ten or twenty years later that it was a lie.
Okay- the truth band aid has been ripped off, and it hurts. But now that its off, maybe some fresh air on the wound will help things to heal...
I was thinking back to December when I think you posted something about your W squeezing your hand under the table (I think during Christmas dinner?). Even in the throes of an A, she was still connected to you, still looking towards that man who has been such a stable force in her life.
I guess a challenge now (and I think about this all the time) is how do you balance being non-judgemental, compassionate and loving WHILE not making it "too easy" to reconcile? I honestly don't have the answer to that one.
You did great T, you really did. I'm proud of you
Take care of yourself, and don't be afraid to go somewhere to have a screaming, crying, stomp around while blasting Soundgarden let all those emotions out episode.
Oh, and keep us posted. We're here for you
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
