Thanks guys for this thought-provoking tangent. It has helped me go back inside myself and ask the tough questions.

I completely agree with Val and 25, and as it has happened very, very often, I share the exact same questions / concerns as Busting and I don't think I could have worded them any better than her.

Me & H: 44
D7, D6, S3
Together: 20y, M: 17y
EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10
EA becomes PA: Spring 2011
H filed for D: 09/06/12
D Negotiating began 2/15
OW seemingly gone on 3/15
Still negotiating D