VG, you're right on when you say, "Just your H being himself." It's so true. I always knew he had no compassion for anyone or respect for anything. I knew it but he was my H and I loved him, so I wanted to overlook that. However, compassion is such a high value for me. Now, looking back, I should've done what my gut told me throughout the time we were dating: to break up with him.
This AM I put down a list of essential traits for a happy marriage (at least for me)
Respect Compassion Open communication Honesty Trust Caring Empathy Appreciation Compromise Reliability Loyalty/faithfulness Love Thoughtfulness Commitment Grace Common values Physical attraction/intimacy
I asked myself, did I have this in my M? I'm not talking about the last couple of years. I'm talking about from the start of it. I only got a Y in physical attraction. I got a maybe in caring, reliability and love. The love part wasn't real, I think, especially knowing what love really means.
So I had a pretty crappy M after all. Glad it's almost over.
