As for the talks when do you know they hurt things or are helping? And if so when do you have them?
At this stage, there is no right time to talk about R/D. The only time you discuss it is when H initiates and then you ONLY LISTEN AND VALIDATE.
Originally Posted By: findingself
If the situation was reversed I am the main caretaker of our S, he is not at this time, our S is breastfeeding also and as this could be my last/only child this is not something I am prepared to stop at this time.
At 17 months is it still typical to be breastfeeding.. I'm not a parent so I'm curious.
Originally Posted By: findingself
It comes down to the fact that yes he will do fine once they are out there, but it is a very long two-three layover flights (whole day each way), and also would be hard to be away from my S for so long. .
Ok a couple of things.
1. IF you are fine with the distance - then you should be fine with the process. Is it easy - no, but it's totally doable.
2. Although I completely understand it being hard for you, to stop the trip because of this reason is selfish.
Originally Posted By: findingself
I am hesitating because I do not think I can and want to deal with being without my child that long, this process has only been going on for a month right now.
I see = well if this IS the reason - it's a selfishly motivated one and not a reason to stop him from going.
Your S deserves to spend time with his D and your H's family.. regardless of what happens in your sitch.
If you guys are scheduled to talk this weekend - talk about the trip.. but only for the concern about breastfeeding - because that's the only one that's not selfishly motivated.
I mean can you pump enough milk for trip or am I asking the most ridiculous question ever??
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