My wife just walked in the door and said "I know I must have sounded as though I have pretty much made up my mind, (you certainly DID!!) but I'm still not sure what I want to do". I'm still a finalist. What a roller coaster ride!
I'm certainly learning how emotional detachment (and I don't mean withdrawal) is a life preserver in times like these. This past summer I would have been a wreck.
Did someone here say, "don't believe a thing they say and only half of what they do"? She told me she was only stating how she felt at the time. We have all read that here too. I think it was either 25yrsmlc, Sandi2 or Cadet who said that. Thank you, veterans for helping us all out on these boards!!
I continue to track as straight as I possibly can. I know she must think I am a rock. I found it very surprising when she told me she thought I would handle our breakup better than she would. I feel that's testament to my steps to GAL and to focus on everything that's good in life. I just keep reminding myself that, although I might not be able to imagine it, I will be just fine either way this ends up. Keep looking ahead, waaaay ahead! Perspective is a must.
She doesn't know how much it affects me when she says she wants something or someone different. I'm doing my best to show her that I'm that someone/something different, but I come completely in tune with her needs, wants and and desires and... her kids absolutely love me!
