Reb thank you so much for the support and kind words! I have been reading a lot of your post too and do see similarities...
I now wish I had not said anything about the house...I thought at the time it would help in that he is not attached to the house and sees it as a stress for him, I should have just let the issue sit and let him address it with me instead.
H is willing to sit and listen at this time but is not able to say he is at fault, making me question if I am just giving him more info to say "yes, I made the right decision" I did see by the end he was at least looking at me straight in the eyes...questioning everything I said now and having major anxiety about it...wish I kept my mouth shut now...but he did say he felt better about our talk so who knows...
Montana is a big issue for me right now...being a mother to and knowing small children...but yes it is a huge leap of faith but I don't want to use S too for this leap of faith...one thing to leave H overnight with him another to say yes take him across the country...his family is great...I love them all and would love to see them too...but think H would say if I can't take S alone he is not going...
I see IC on Friday and will have to address it.
Co-parenting in the future is one thing, S is still very young and Breastfeeding and co-sleeping with me who is around him 24/7. So hard...
So Reb you are saying not to push him out to far...it is hard because I know he does not like the house and responsibilites of it...he also commented that I changed the cat liter, this was something he scooped a lot and I always told him I would not...so at what point do you not cut them out...it is a hard line to go draw sometimes?
