Wife privileges reinstated, back in my own bed!

[Wendylon]

Hi RLA,

I'd be grateful if my H cooked something at all and extremely appreciative if it was good to boot. In my books, that's huge. I agree with SS's views on her H's health but like you it really annoys that my H doesn't take care of his health. I'm not sure how one gets rid of those feelings of annoyance.

As the H's snoring, I find that most of the time, the earplugs I use are pretty good. Have you tried lots of different types? Mine aren't foam, they're the consistency of wax and can be moulded. I can make them any size I want and if I really get the size right and push them in properly they work well.

I'm with you with the complaint about your H's 'lack of engagement' when it comes to you. I do think though that your H's comment about not taking for granted that all of you were together for the ski trip is very significant. When my H is in pain, he becomes even more self-centred and unhelpful. Your H may be the same. I like the advice about how to ask for help in a different way. I could use it too.

Hang in there, RLA. It does sound like progress overall.