So do you suggest then that I don't have any or next to no contact with her until I am able to properly detach from her?


Ya she is blaming my daughter for her unhappiness... and her daughters unhappiness... and she told me that's why she was staying out partying and not wanting to come home because my D was here..... the thing is so was her D... but that didn't seem to matter much.....

My daughter came from a very different lifestyle... So we knew she would have some adjusting when she came her... my daughter stole $40 from her daughter only after a month of being here.... then she lied about it before owning up to it... then she was sneaking some food and lying about it.... both times she was punished and dealt with.... but other than that her attitude is good.. she's very polite... more the the book worm type... about 20 lbs over weight..
Her daughter is more the barbie type... really girlie girl... ...... They have always gotten along in the past... but my daughter had only been around a couple of times in the past couple of years... . ... she and her mom lived 8hrs away and when her mom sensed she wanted to come live with me she stopped allowing me to have regular visits...
So what connection they had before when they were little started to go away.. . Her daughter had always been the only child in the house.... So when mine came to live with us her daughter wasn't happy about it... she was just going into her first year of high school and felt like all the attention had been taking off of her with D showing up days before school started.... so my D stealing from her D made a bad situation worse....

so when it comes to 180's both my D and I need to do them. but she needs more help.... she will start counselling next month when she turns 16

M-39
W-41
T-9yrs
BD-Dec 2012
“regardless of your choices and the fact that they may have caused me to experience painful emotions, I still love you because I recognize the purpose of our journey.”