Great, thought provoking post bug. As you know, I've been thinking a lot about self respect lately myself.
Originally Posted By: labug
Neither of us had the self respect or strength to hold out for what was important to us; having done that would have us in a much different place today.
This is so true....for most of us here I think. Over the course of my M, my W never stood up for what she believed in, what she had strong feelings about. She muddled thru, didn't get her needs met, grew resentful, had some EAs, and then filed for D.
Upon filing for D, I feel like finally, she had found some self-respect. She finally said "no more...this is not the way I want to live or how I want to be loved." And then she starts behaving without any boundaries, neither her own, nor mine...and the positions shift.
