Well I talked to the W on the phone last night.... and wow has it really messed up my feelings... It was an up and down conversation. She did say she misses me.... That's when you get off the phone.^^ Nothing else helped you feel better.
most of her venom spewing was directed at my daughter... how she could not live with the stress of having another kid in the house... and having her daughter unhappy... that her school came first and foremost....
Stop any spewing aimed at your child.
she knew you had a child when she married you & she helped you get custody. It's so very UNfair to blame a child for HER actions. Period. (Of course that assumes YOU handled things well at your end. IF NOT then own that. Otherwise she cannot expect any improvement) Say that and GET OFF THE PHONE...
we did talk a little about the OM.... she was saying how it's a relationship... no emotion... just fun times and sex.. that she knows it's not a long term thing but she likes it because he's young and has no baggage... did that ^^ help you in any way??? THERE'S A REASON WE SUGGEST WHAT WE SUGGEST... we had always dealt with our blended family great before... like when? What are you referring to? If it's true, she'll recall those times. Does not need You to point them out.
. and now she says she can't handle it because of school and she wants a fun life. we had a fun life before.... you mean before your d came? She's still blaming your d for this? Not cool.
If she "just wants to have fun" then it sounds as if she is burned out. You have to back off and let her "Enjoy her FUN" b/c in time, that wears out. The "fun" stops when there's no money to pay for it with...back off.
She talks about our 9yr relationship and my kid as if it was nothing and wasn't worth the trouble? I just don't get it? most of everything she was saying was a lie...it's soo hard to hear the woman I love talk the way she did....
IF it is a lie, then it's not true. So the "data" is not real.
If it IS true you - need to take it in and process it and change some things.
I need to detach... badly... I just don't know how to do it... one conversation in two months on the phone and it ripped me apart...:(
Yes you do need to detach. You did the exact opposite of detachment.
Be wary of the conversations you do NOT need to have. AVOID THOSE TALKS.
How did the conversation even come about?
Come on man, you have to give the DB program a chance to work or it won't work...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
