I understand what you're saying with regards my W doesn't feel the same. But at the moment she has a OM and sees her Son 3 days a week - surely us working to live in a happy marriage where she sees her Son everyday would be better than her current life? It really does baffle me.
Hmm....
It would certainly make sense now wouldn't it...
Only that is YOUR fix for her....not hers
Intact, IF she were to come back to you today, and ask to make it work....
Are you where you want to be ????
Are you to the point, where there is no chance that things would fall back into familiar patterns in a few months ???
Generally, there is a reason that these things take time.
It is so you BOTH can step away and heal...
That ^^^^ just sounds really judgmental to me
Thank you Mach I appreciate your advice - it wasn't supposed to sound judgemental but it is something that baffles me. It really is.
Honestly, I really think I am now in a place where I would never make the same mistakes again. I love my W with all of my heart, and if I had been told long ago that what I was doing or wasn't doing was hurting her I would of worked on rectifying it immediately...
I just think (and I know I shouldn't) that my W has now fallen in love with OM which seems to leave me with very little chance of reconciliation. I know, I know I'm mind reading but it is how I feel.
W 39 Me 33 M 9yrs 8 year old Son ILYBINILWY - Dec 12 W moved out - Jan 2013 OM - Jan 2013 I file for D - May 2013
