TVS, thanks for taking the time to read and respond. Yes, it is crazy. Thanks for the 31 reasons link. It looks pretty extensive, so I'll have to read it once I get a few of my projects out of the way.
So they did break up. It might be over for good, as H has deactivated his FB so that he doesn't have to deal with seeing any thing about the sitch, even though he also defriended anyone that he met through her.
Before closing his account, he posted on his page asking any mutual friends that he was still friends with to remove her, as he wanted no reminder of what he had done. He said that it was very embarrassing, but he had to ask them to do so.
Right now I'm just trying to be a friend to him. He feels stupid because he did everything she asked, trying to make it work, and spent so much money on her. And now he's realizing that she probably didn't feel the same way about him.
He's not in a place right now to decide if he wants to work on things with us. At least he's realizing that he needs to get his self confidence back and figure out what he really wants in life.
And you know what, that's what I want for him right now. I do love him, but I actually think I could be ok just being friends. He needs to learn again how to be a good father, son, brother, and friend, without losing himself in the process. Maybe he'll want to be a husband too, but I'm just going to take it day by day.
His family is worried about him, especially after he left FB, but they're all concerned that I'm going to get hurt again. I might, but right now I'm ok with the sitch.
M36 XH34 M-5 T7 4/11 H confused 5/11 ILYB 6/11 OW discovered 7/11 I move out, OW over 5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file 9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3 3/13 H/OW break up H files 4/13 D 6/18/13
