Help & Advice needed please Thread 2

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Don't get me wrong, I wasn't questioning why you wanted to talk with a DB coach. Reason I asked is to make sure you had thought about what you wanted from the call.

I do love my wife enough, no question I suppose I just have this feeling that we could be very happy together - as a family...

I know the feeling buddy, I feel the same way. Something I had to realize is that my W doesn't share the same opinion as I do. The only way to convince her otherwise is to show her, through my actions, that a new M with me won't be the same as the previous one we struggled with. In order for that to happen I have to look at myself and change what I don't like before I can honestly expect her to take another look at us.

Have you made enough changes in yourself already?

Are those changes natural and a part of you?

I have made changes and for the most part they are very natural now...

She now knows that I am financially responsible - as I am paying for the house and all of the bills by myself. As part of my GAL I have started going to the theatre to see plays etc. I have really enjoyed this and I know it's something she's always wanted me too do.

I understand what you're saying with regards my W doesn't feel the same. But at the moment she has a OM and sees her Son 3 days a week - surely us working to live in a happy marriage where she sees her Son everyday would be better than her current life? It really does baffle me.