Looking for a little advice and support

[azguy]

My sitch is different than yours, so I don't mean to scare you. However, the one thing I did with my W when we were having problems was tell her that maybe I wasn't interested in working out, that maybe a divorce would be for the best. I look back at those statements as ones I made in anger and frustration. I was, I guess, trying to protect myself from more pain, as I think you are doing. Try to imagine yourself in another year or so, divorced. Are you okay with that path? I thought I was, only to find it was all bluster and "to hell with it" type of frustration. I feel like I have more patience now. I wish I did back then. More importantly I hope, if you have the interest, that you have the resolve to not hit the self-destruct button.