Looking for a little advice and support

[AnotherStander]

Here is some texting back and forth this morning. Let me know some thoughts or advice on how to handle it maybe:

Wow, well it sounds like you were really trying to push her buttons. I think you could have been a lot more diplomatic:

Me: K. Well please try and have that figured out by the end of this month.
I can't continue to put my work and life secondary to your horse life.
I'm beginning to realize that we need to figure out how you are going to do this without me in the picture. I can't just stop what I'm doing. I'm sorry Let's see if we can coordinate this together by the end of the month.

Me:
I know you're not asking for me to put my life on hold. But you are asking me to help out quite a bit during weeks. Obviously weekends are ok. But it's these weekdays that I am having a problem with.
This is something you need to start figuring out anyways assuming we divorce. I think you know that though.
I would be happy to help on weekdays as well, I just need as much advanced notice as possible so I can coordinate with my work schedule.

Me: Yes that's correct assuming everything goes according to planned. If I've learned one thing with your new world is that it usually doesn't. And with a child, things certainly don't always go according to plan.
Case in point next week Sometimes things don't go exactly as scheduled, but I'll adapt as best I can if things change.

Remember, it's the small interactions like this one that are driving EVERYTHING right now. Do things right in these interactions and you keep the way home paved and smooth. Do these things wrong and it's just a reminder to the WAS of why they don't want to stay in the M.