You both say you want nothing more than to talk face to face with your W's. The trouble with this plan is that they don't want to talk to you.
Have you ever seen the tv show Cheaters, where they confront the wayard spouse? Never ends well, does it? If this is what you want, then confront your wife and throw it all down. You'll likely get the beginnig of closure.
I agree with AS, and will add that nothing good will happen for you guys until you realize you don't need your wife to live a happy a fulfilling life, and then set out to make it happen.
I have not seen the show Cheaters. I dont know how to say this in the way i need it to sound so I hope you get it. So Yes I know that nothing good will happen till i realize i dont need her. All i can say is I know this and well I am doing everything I can think of to have a happy life. I do feel ok and I am happy were I am going. I do not need my wife but I just get stuck sometimes when i'm out thinking I would love to share this with my wife. It is not that i need her it is just that I would love to share my happiness with my Wife.
Yes i do have times that are hard. Also this lingering compolsion that I want to know if she is sleeping around. I guess the reason why i want to know is that maybe it will help me make the proper next move..
I can say that this is just so very hard sometimes. Also i think part of my problem is that i stopped taking the anti depressant my Dr gave me. The withdraw from it is hard.
i hope i said all this correctly. Maybe i am totaly wrong but it is how i feel today. please feel free to help me understand what im doing
