So your GAL is beneficial to the entire family while his GAL is selfish and harmful. And this conclusion is drawn from seeing a few hiking photos. This is why we preach not to snoop on the spouse, because it harms YOU. Turn your focus on to you and the kids. Forget about H and his activities, they are what they are. You need to detach from that.
What I meant was I have to GAL while still being full time parent with all the same/normal responsibilities I had before. He can abandon all responsibilities and just take care of himself. Snooping is really hard, it comes in waves. I'm either really good or really bad. For fb, it's hard to not see or react when we're still fb friends (and married!). I've thought of unfriending him but think that would send the wrong message. I'm really going to just focus on detaching and controlling my reactions this week. Thank you for the reminder.
