well here we are again, Well I drove past W house 11:30pm
Why are you snooping on her? Is it making you feel better about your sitch? Sounds like it's making you feel worse. So quit doing it.
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I want to send her a text or email just saying hi and aasking for the keys back for the storage unit. Also to tell her to use the money in the bank joint account to get the late car payment up to date. the say to her I just wanted to say that I do still love you and i am totaly committed to you untill the end. I will never be the one to cheat on you. We are still married. No matter what way this turns out i do so badly want to talk to you. I know you do as well as you told me an a past email.
I hope you enjoyed the flowers i gave you but i dont think you even got them. but it is what it is.
See the above edit. All the struck through stuff is just pressure, pressure, pressure. It will hurt your sitch. You need to remove all pressure from the WAS, not apply more.
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i know this is my own making but nothing is happening and im just messed up i guess
Nothing is happening, I presume you mean regarding your M? Please understand that the only think you can make happen is D. You cannot force reconciliation to happen, that is your W's decision unfortunately. So either you live with limbo or you push for D, those are your options. The thing is, if you are going to live with limbo you have to put the focus on YOU! It sounds like in your posts that you're still placing way too much focus on W and what she's doing. You've got to leave her to it and work on the one thing you can change- you. Instead of driving by W's house, drive to the gym and work out. Or to the park to go for a walk. Or to a painting class. Instead of mind-reading about what her missing car means, tell us about your latest GAL activity, how it's going, who you've met, how you're improving yourself. Change your focus!
