Served

[dorightman]

I know this should be about me and not W, but I have to rant for a minute.

Ever since this began, 12/1/11, the BD as we say, I have been trying to save the M.
Not tried DBing until August, but doing 180's, being a good husband and father.

W had been telling me that we need help and that this was very serious in the beginning. Well, over time, the story changed and it went from we need to work on these very serious problems to now where she is driving the ship straight to divorce.

There is nothing innocent about what w is doing.

By acting the way she is acting, w is going to force an outcome.

W is not giving us a chance to work through any of our problems and w is not giving us a chance to reconcile.

w is forcing us to divorce. Not I.

For the past seven months I have been trying to save our marriage and the reason I have been unsuccessful is because w has stubbornly decided on her own to end our marriage.

W has decided to not give love a chance. W has decided to not let anything I do affect her. W has decided.

Any right minded person who has seen my efforts and knows my love and commitment for W and our family, would agree.

There is nothing innocent about what she is doing.


I may have made some stupid mistakes in the past, but w is the one who's actions are forcing us into a divorce now, in real time, not in the past.

There is nothing true or organic about what w is doing. It is forced action. She is aware of what she is doing, and she is making decisions based on a projected outcome. W is lying to herself, me, and everyone around her including her family and children.

OK, now that I got that thought out of the way, because thats how she's making me feel right now. I know I need to focus on me and kids, not her. I cannot change her.

I understand the process of DB. Save yourself, detach, and give time and space. I get it. Also making yourself into a stronger, more attractive person, etc. I get it.

The problem is that it feels to me that there is nothing I can do to change the outcome of where this is heading. It's not a question of whether it will happen or not, it's only a question of when.

W is very aware of her actions and how to lead us to a D. It is all pre-meditated and being forced to happen the way she wants. Her divorced friends and divorce attorneys have been guiding her step by step.