I am a M who has been married for 10 years with two S. My W has had at least two EA, maybe even a PA I don't know about, during our marriage. The latest time was just two months ago.
Since that time, we have been speaking with a therapist, and I have read many books and online info. My W refuses to talk about our problems and gets mad when I try and tell her what bothers me and that we need to talk about it.
She has no sex drive and doesn't ever touch or kiss me. Even the cat and dog get kisses. I thought I could work through the problem by giving it time. But the more time that goes by, the more I hate my marriage. I can not understand how she can ignore me and yet "want to try and work it out". I am getting anything from her either emotionally or physically, and haven't for several years. She tells me that I am just not normal, yet refuses to read SSM or anything else. She ignores our marriage counselor and hears only things she wants to hear the counselor.
At what point should I stop getting my heart broken trying to save our marriage when she isn't doing anything to try. I feel used because she gets things she wants from the marriage (I pay the bills, while she gets her college degree), while I feel I get nothing but frustration and heartache.....
What else can I do, or is it time to end my suffering and just get the divorce over with?
