Treading water

[azguy]

Ok, so I'm still new here, and learning. But I'm enjoying (so to speak) following your thread and can't resist jumping in when you ask questions.

She believes you're going to sulk. You admit she's right to us. Did you say that to her? Something like, "I can see how you'd think I'd be mad. It's how I used to react, but I'm working on that."

I'd suggest not confronting her with what you suspect she's thinking (that you're the enemy; that she's looking for the worst). Steer away from anything like that. Show her you are okay with her doubting your intentions, but do your best to be consistent. "I'm trying to keep it up" sounds a lot better than "I am not the enemy".