Ok, giving books/advice is likely counterproductive. I know this, but sometimes I need to air the idea here, just to not be tempted to try it.
Pmac21, as far as I know there is no OM. To be honest, if my XW found someone else who she seemed happier with, I'd try my best to be happy for her. From what I can tell, though, she mainly didn't want to continue the bad sitch she (we) were in. Felt like she didn't have her own life, I'd say.
8 months is probably about the time the shininess of a new R starts to wear off. I hope you're working on GAL and changing your interactions with her, so she sees what she's missing with you, and for yourself as well.
H: 38 xW: 38 M: 16 T: 18 S: 9 BD: 2/2012 W moved out 4/2012 D: 11/2012