1 - Self Respect - This is where boundaries stem from for me. It's not about getting the other person to adhere to them or even earning their respect. It's about respecting myself, my heart.
Boundaries keep the heart safe and healthy. Having a healthy heart allows for you to show your best self.
And if for some chance - they end up respecting you too - DOUBLE WIN!
2 - Respecting Others - this is also done regardless of their actions. Respect is not earned, it is deserved. People love to think they are deserving of it.. and that is very true.....
... but we need to be honest with ourselves on how much we give respect. Or how often we want to attach expectations to the respect giving.
How many times are we guilty of saying "Well I respected his/her x - he/she should respect....
STOP RIGHT THERE!!!!!
We give respect. Period. No ifs, buts, what ifs, how comes, why's.. whatever.
The best way you want to influence someone to treat you - is to treat them they way you wished to be treated.
Give first - then you will receive. But if not - that is totally fine too.
After all, life is about who YOU want to be.. isn't it??
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
